Depression seems to be part and parcel of becoming a caregiver to a loved one. Depression is, in reality, anger turned inward. This is not always obvious, nor is it easily admitted to – There are so many areas we experience anger along the way – As we watch our loved one struggle to do simple tasks, watch them decline in mind and body, watch them lose their independence and eventually their lives in the process…
We, as caregivers, additionally encounter all the while numerous misfortunes of our own. We understand we are absolutely vulnerable despite infringing ailment and exceptional enduring – We can’t wave a magic wand and give our friends and family back their feeling of control, nor would we be able to hold the fancy that we have much control ourselves. We are just outstretched hands to help our adored one to live as serenely as could be expected under the circumstances in the days staying to them.
Regularly, sorrow comes from expanded stress, or is situational in origin. This is because of the tremendous obligations that tumble to us as the caregiver, to give 100% and go beyond that multiple times over, doing whatever is necessary to insure quality care for our loved one. The affection I conveyed for my mom empowered me to transcend my own disabling depression and to do what helped her in experiencing her last days with however much peace as could be expected.
As a believer in a power greater than myself, I gained strength to do what was necessary at the time – Having faith does not preclude experiencing depression – We are human beings and react to rapidly changing situations and traumatic events. All I know for sure is that my mother’s final days were richer for having me as her caregiver, and I will never regret what was required of me. This was my gift to her for giving me my own life. While depression may be my lifetime companion, it has not succeeded in overcoming the love I carry in my heart for my mother. Becoming a caregiver requires a commitment in your heart, to essentially ‘bear another’s burden’. I am grateful for every single day that I made the choice to do this. I know, without any doubt, that my life made a positive difference and this knowledge makes it all worthwhile…..