Monthly Archives: January 2016

Selfish is not a dirty word if you are a Caregiver Pt. 2

Being a gourmet cook, Charlene was very anxious to get back into the kitchen again. Her mother would cook all of the meals and thought that Charlene couldn’t or shouldn’t have to cook because of her paralysis. However, I’m sure it had something to do with too many cooks in the kitchen, or something like […]

“Selfish” is not a dirty word if you are a Caregiver, Pt. 1

I originally wanted to call this book, “The Selfish Caregiver; How to overcome Burnout,” but I was concerned with the negative reactions I was getting from those I shared with. Nobody wants to be selfish; we were all taught that is a negative quality that will lead to pride, greed, egotism and self-centeredness. Who wants […]

Is It OK For Caregivers To Occasionally Be a Little Selfish?

The arguments that my wife and I often get into usually have to do with each of us believing that we are both selfless and not selfish. For example, her doctor suggested that she get a shingles shot because shingles is a very painful virus that is already in everyone who has had the chicken […]

Survival or Burnout, your choice / (Selfish or Selfless)

            We have all boarded an airplane to fly somewhere only to have the flight attendants direct our attention to the video explaining their emergency procedures. They usually go on to say, “In the unlikely event of a loss in cabin pressure, your oxygen masks will fall from the compartment above your seat. Reach up […]

How Do You Answer Such Caregiver Questions?

What day is this? “Why, it’s Tuesday.” (There’s only one answer to this one, although you might add the month and date, depending.) What am I supposed to be doing? I don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing! “The laundry, washing the dishes, taking out the trash, writing thank-you notes, feeding the dog….”  (lots […]